052110. “Learn one thing today: Let the past go. Let it go at any cost. Those who do not forget the past, but remember the past and make it their security will find it very difficult to have a good future.” (Yogi Bhajan)
I get these “I am a woman: quotes of the day” sent to my inbox every morning from KRI. Some days it seems like the quote is important for someone to hear (not always me). But today’s (above) is HUGE. For me. Maybe not you. But for me, today’s quote started ringing in my ears. (Or, to use a metaphor that matches my photo ... it was as if the Sun came up and I could see it for the first time ...even though I think this photo is a sunset ... you get the idea.)
How often do we get stuck in a loop of remembering something that happened and fail to be able to find a way to move forward? “If only I had said this.” “Why didn’t he say that?” “Why did I eat that?” “What was I thinking?” “Why did I eat that?” (Yes, I know I said that already ...)
I don’t think it’s a bad thing to remember the past. I don’t think that’s what YB was saying. But I think the message is: don’t let it become the whole of who you are. “Don’t get stuck.”
It’s a little like listening to a record (yes, I’m dating myself – but honestly, cassette tapes were all the rage when I was a kid in the 80s. Albums were nostalgic even then) with a scratch in it … a continual loop of negative sound that can make one crazy. It’s like a barrage of hate mail to your psyche. I don’t think many of us have the defenses to deal with that. I know I don’t.
sorting and packing all of my belongings for this move to Montana. And it’s really putting my past in
front of me in a way that other moves haven’t. So today, as I sort and pack (and I have a LOT of sorting
and packing left to do in six days), I’m going to
try to put my
past in a box and leave it on the curb for the garbage man. I’m also going to sell a few things on
Craigslist (in case anyone’s looking for a bike, a TV, a guitar, a chair, a small bench
or a set of bookshelves … let me know).
I’m going to cherish the good times. Love the people I’ve shared them with. And stop beating myself up for the mistakes I’ve made, opportunities I’ve missed, people I’ve hurt, hurts I’ve received at the hands of others.
Q: Have you done any Spring Cleaning lately?